The scene: You and your manager are in a meeting to discuss your performance this past year. So far most of the conversation has been positive, but now you sense a change in the tone of their voice and perhaps event notice the subtle shift in their body language and now your mind immediately goes to a dark place.
Let's face it. None of us are perfect. There is always something we can work on to make ourselves better, stronger, whatever. However, before we can get to those better places or opportunities we need to know our starting point and what might need to be "tweaked." So, instead of tuning out the boss, I would ask you to consider the following pointers:
1. Be grateful for the feedback. Someone is taking the time to share with you their perceptions of you (and/or your behavior). Even if you don't agree with it, their perceptions are their reality.
2. Don't take the feedback personally. Detach yourself from your job title and don't take the feedback home with you.
3. If you are not clear on how to interpret the feedback, ask questions that will help you understand what the other person is trying to share.
4. Thank your manager for the feedback. You now understand their perspective on a situation and you can decide if you want/need to modify your behavior going forward.